The Simple Question That Brings Confidence Back

Side by side - one carries confidence, the other shows none.

You drag your kit bag into training. Shoulders heavy. Eyes a little down. It feels like you’ve lost something. And maybe you have - not your talent, not your skill, but that spark of belief -the version of you who made runs, who teammates trusted, who played without fear.

Right now, it feels distant. But here’s the truth: that version is still in you. You need a way back.

Start With One Question

Instead of searching for speeches or drills, begin here:

“Tell me about me at my best…”

Ask yourself that. Sit with it. Don’t rush. Let the silence stretch.

Because this isn’t about fixing anything. It’s about reminding yourself who you already are.

Listen to Your Own Words

When you answer, pay attention to the details:

• “I was finding gaps easily.”

• “My feet were sharp.”

• “I felt two steps ahead.”

These aren’t just memories - they’re evidence. Proof that confidence once lived in you, and still does.

If You Get Stuck

It’s normal to default to mistakes - the dropped catches, the low scores, the near-misses. Most players do.

When that happens, push yourself gently with prompts:

• What else?

• What would my teammates say about me on a good day?

• What’s one performance I still feel proud of?

Bit by bit, you’ll shift your focus from flaws to strengths.

See It or Say It

Some players can clearly see themselves at their best. Others can’t. Both are fine.

If you can visualise, lean into it.If you can’t, describe it out loud or write it down.

Whether you see it or say it, you’re rehearsing confidence.

Go Deeper

Don’t stop at one answer. Stretch the memory out:

• If there were a camera on me at my best, what would it capture?

• How did my teammates feel that day?

• What did my body language look like?

• What would even my harshest critic have noticed?

The more detail you recall, the more real it becomes again. That’s where confidence lives.

The Shift

Something happens when you do this.

Your posture changes. Your tone lifts. Your eyes light up again.

Nothing has been “fixed.” You’ve just reconnected with yourself.

Your Challenge This Week

Find one quiet moment. Ask yourself:

“Tell me about me at my best…”

Answer honestly. Prompt yourself gently if needed. Reflect on what shows up.

Confidence doesn’t return in one big speech. It comes back in reminders - small, steady, powerful.

Final Word

You don’t need magic words or extra drills. You need presence, patience, and one good question.

Because confidence isn’t something you lose. It’s something you already carry - you just need to remember how it feels.